Disclaimer -> I get excited about books. Like really, really excited!
The themes of this book are applicable…the unexpected wisdom and ideas are ubiquitous…all that and the book was still super enjoyable! Not too heavy…not too serious or boring! Who really needs a self-help book when a great heroine can embody the needful?!
Feyre, the lead, is so much more real in this book vice the first in the series.
I love her perseverance and relate to how she really found herself….and constantly improved herself.
She not only survived, she thrived. Book 1 was survival. Book 2 started in survival mode, but she quickly evolved into her own. I love that.
I VERY eagerly await the new one in May! So much so, that I will pay for it, vice a library rental, if I can’t get it quickly!
Doing singleness well takes effort…feeding the mind the right things…using time wisely…having caution with what situations that are entertained.
I’ve had a Tamlin…and it bugs me that I didn’t see his character in the first book. WHY?!
I should know better.
I should know the clues!
The other dude, Rhysand, seemed slick in the book…but further revelation of his character showed clearly appearances aren’t everything…fine language, noble ideals, etc. – not the main point.
Motive is chief among considerations…many a good thing is a mask for something nasty…nobility for arrogance and/or entitlement…fine language for lies and/or manipulation…dirt bags excel at impressions.
Find the good…remember the good…focus on the good. Even in pain there is a lesson…perhaps pointing out a mistake…or growing you to a new level. Growth seldom happens without some discomfort [at best] or pain [at worst].
Time with a Tamlin
It was bad. Very bad.
The biggest lesson learned was that God’s way is the only way. Godliness will deter many jerks…time in the Word and regular worship will heighten discernment so the remaining ones are revealed for who they really are.
The second biggest was that consequences aren’t always only mine. Family hurts also.
Hope for a Rhysand
Hope…I believe if God has a man for me, he won’t be lacking. He won’t be perfect, but he won’t be a monster either. However, if Infant and I need a champion…he’ll become our monster 🙂 I expect godliness, provision, protection and great companionship.
Perspective -> follow God, He knows all, past, present and future 🙂
Don’t rush…God’s timing is always perfect.
Pinterest…such a treasure trove sometimes! I’ve eaten lies because I was starving. Not proud of it…but I’ve had my belly full and I’ll have no more.
The fact is that I’ll keep eating lies if I don’t repair the issue – starvation & drifting.
I think the drifting was the start – being a fence sitter…a bad man who shattered any hopes I had for a normal lifelong marriage…shift into survival mode – lights only – avoid his anger and adapt to his moods…more drifting…books and church are balm that keep me from complete stasis and stagnation…but I live in a fresh, but deep and dark, hell daily…with a tiny patch of sun…I live this way for her because I think it is best…for her because it is horrible for me. I can fix myself…or start the fixing…but him, he can’t be fixed. Narcissists are that way. I realize it will never get better so I break free…I see the lies…
But guess what…another liar was waiting. Hook. Line. Sinker.
Shame on me. Repetition…I didn’t repair. 😐
The old adage is right about giving yourself time…
SO then, how do I detect lies? The Holy Spirit and The Word. Renew my mind in the word. Romans 12.2. Disciplined effort and consistency.
Lately, I keep a list on my phone of what I myself have seen God do in my life. It’s amusing to me that a fictional book, completely secular, would parallel some things I’m thinking and working through.
11 Quotes I Loved
From the series in general…not just the favorite of the two books so far 🙂
1 – I was not a pet, not a doll, not an animal. I was a survivor, and I was strong. I would not be weak, or helpless again I would not, could not be broken. Tamed. — Feyre
I’m not a trophy…or a possession…I am not the one.
2 – I was not prey any longer, I decided as I eased up to that door. And I was not a mouse.
I was a wolf. — Feyre
3 – The issue isn’t whether he loved you, it’s how much. Too much. Love can be a poison. — Rhys
4 – Many atrocities, have been done in the name of the greater good. — Rhys
5 – It had filled my time – given me quiet, steadfast company with those characters, who did not exist and never would, but somehow made me feel less … alone. — Feyre, of reading 🙂
6 – I had let them make me weak. Bent to it like some wild horse broken to the bit. — Feyre
7 – I was a wolf. And I bit when cornered. — Feyre
8 – Yes. He’d given me everything I needed to become myself, to feel safe. And when he got what he wanted … He’d stopped. Had tried, but not really. — Feyre, of Tamlin
Check the motives
9 – But maybe those things had blinded me, too. — Feyre, of the physical with Tamlin
Physical responses can blind to true character…
10 – …from years spent being hungry, and desperate. That I might always be a little bit vicious or restless. That I might crave peace, but never a cage of comfort. –Feyre
Damage happens…sin isn’t without long-term effects.
11 – But I was beautiful. I was strong. I had survived—triumphed. –Feyre
This is how I feel about myself. Without the struggles and pain, I wouldn’t be this precise person…similar…but very unrefined and unfocused.
And the best of them:
I realized how badly I’d been treated before, if my standards had become so low. If the freedom I’d been granted felt like a privilege and not an inherent right.
Standards are a good barometer. If I’m happy with a pittance given from bad motives…I shouldn’t be grateful for that! It isn’t haughty or wrong to expect, maybe even demand, respect and kindness – they are due to every Image Bearer of God.
What is allowed, will continue. Get it right from the start 🙂
I love when a book has great food for thought!
My freedom is mine; I fought for it. I’ll use it wisely 🙂
Godliness with contentment is great gain…here.